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Temperament Trait Strategies: Intensity

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:39pm
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Intensity: On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Intensity – this child is mellow and calm.

Comfort

  • Provide lots of bonding time. These children need it, even though they don't demand it.  This helps your child become more attached to you and want to please you.

Play

  • Provide plenty of opportunities to read about big emotions from stories. For example, "The Billy Goat Gruff ROARED, "Who’s that trip-trapping over my bridge??"  This helps your child learn to delight in high intensity emotions, too.

Teach

  • Teach your baby to snuggle, kiss and hug friends and family. Not all babies do this naturally.  Have people express their love back to him, which will please him and others around him.

 

High Intensity – these children are the big responders.  They squeal delightedly with happiness and shriek with despair.

Comfort

  • Stay calm in the face of your child's out of control emotions. This helps your child feel safe enough to start to calm down herself.

Play

  • Act out and read stories that resolve big emotions with calm endings. For example, "Goldilocks was afraid of the wolf! But the hunter was calm and strong."  This helps your child learn that intense emotions can be resolved with calm emotions.

Teach

  • Show patience when your baby's emotions are running high. This will help her calm down.  This will help her learn from her most influential role model that returning to calm helps her cope with situations.

 

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Your Parents' Parenting Worksheet

by Maxine
Posted August 19 2010 04:14pm
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In thinking about how you want to parent your child, it is helpful to review how your parents parented you. Each parent would have treated you differently. This worksheet helps you reflect on how you were parented as a child.

Try to have each parent of your child complete this worksheet. Sharing your ratings with one another is a good way to start talking about the kind of parenting each of you wants to provide for your child.
 

Download the Your Parents' Parenting Worksheet (PDF)


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Temperament Trait Strategies: Persistence

by Maxine
Posted July 30 2010 04:48pm
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Persistence : On The Temperament Wheel, is your child high or low? 

Low Persistence – this child gives up easily in face of failure.

Comfort

  • Stay close and offer encouragement when you see your child wanting to give up too early on a task.  This will help her learn to persist a bit longer than if left on her own.

Play

  • Prepare some play activities that are only slightly challenging. This will allow him to experience success, and feel good about the success that comes after what he feels is a lot of persistence.

Teach

  • Break most of his tasks into small, manageable pieces. This will keep him from feeling overwhelmed by the size of the job, and to experience success.
     

 

High Persistence – these children continue to do what they want—even when they're faced with obstacles.

Comfort

  • Show that you understand your child's desire to persist—even if you must stop him from what he is doing.  This helps your child feel loved—even if he's keenly disappointed that he has to stop.

Play

  • Encourage some variety in your child's play—even if she seems to only enjoy one thing.  This will help your child become a more well-rounded child.

Teach

  • Provide firm, clear and consistent limits when she continues to do something that is not good for her. Highly persistent babies need more of this kind of direction than other babies.  This helps your child learn what is acceptable without huge power struggles.

 

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My Parenting

by Maxine
Posted August 19 2010 04:24pm
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To bring Positive Parenting into action, each of you need to reflect on your own abilities and strengths for parenting. This is key information to help you support each other in becoming the parents you want to be.

Don’t worry—you don’t have to be perfect! Not every parent is terrific in every aspect of being a Positive Parent. But it is important for you to know your positive strengths, as well as the areas you hope to improve. The ideal situation is for your partner to balance you out in the areas that are the most challenging for you. If you are both a little short in the same area, it’s a good idea to bring other caring adults into your child’s life. People like grandparents, aunts and uncles, nannies and daycare providers can offer a wider base of positivity.

How’s Your Parenting?

To help you reflect on your strengths and abilities as a Positive Parent, rate yourself and your partner on the characteristics found in the worksheet below. After you’ve completed your assessments, discuss the ratings you gave yourselves and each other. Talk about the reasons why you gave the ratings you did. Share your hopes for how you want to be a Positive Parent.

Download the My Parenting Worksheet (PDF)

Try to have each parent of your child complete this worksheet.  Sharing your ratings with one another is a good way to start talking about the kind of parenting each of you wants to provide for your child.
 

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